My partner’s ex-wife ‘stole’ my inheritance. Queensland Australia experience.

JILL* was madly in love with her new partner DAVE* and they were looking forward to their future together.

Dave had been through a recent divorce and Jill assumed everything was legally sorted out, with property and finances divided.

Her life changed when a relative died and Jill was thrilled to receive a hefty inheritance, so she and Dave bought a house together in Noosa.Qld. That’s when she decided to protect her assets, just in case her relationship with Dave ever broke down.

“By that stage I had a few properties, so I thought it was a good idea to see a lawyer to arrange a pre-nuptial agreement, just so I could protect everything in case something happened between myself and Dave,” Jill told news.com.au

“Dave told me that he and his ex-wife had a property settlement and he believed it had been formalised. He was more than happy to move ahead with me and prepare a pre-nuptial agreement, as we were both confident there was nothing to be concerned about.”

Then came the bombshell — Dave received an email from his ex-wife’s lawyer, demanding a property settlement and a substantial amount of money. It turns out the property settlement with his ex-wife had not been formalised after all.

“At first I was shocked — surely there has been a mistake? I had no idea Dave’s ex-wife could have any possible claim on any of my money. So, it was absolutely devastating when we learnt that my inheritance and other money was soon going to vanish,” Jill said.

“I’d met the love of my life, everything was going great in my world and, to top it all off, having this inheritance was another dream come true as I’ve worked so hard my whole life. Little did I know that that dream was about to come tumbling down.”

Family lawyer Marie Fedorov told news.com.au she was called in to help the couple negotiate a settlement — but Jill had no choice but to pay her partner’s ex-wife out of her own pocket.

Jill owned several investment properties which fell into the asset pool that Jim’s ex had rights over.

“Jill and Dave had just purchased a new house, which fell into the asset pool of her partner and his ex-wife as well as around $120,000 of inheritance, personal savings and superannuation,” Ms Fedorov said.

“Unfortunately there wasn’t much that we could do. If you pool your assets together with your partner, they can most certainly join the asset pool of their previous partner, if certain formalities have not already been made.”

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Ms Fedorov said it’s wise to have a pre-nuptial agreement from the moment you become someone’s defacto (i.e. live together in a domestic arrangement).

“It’s also crucial to make sure that you formalise agreements reached, as what happened was Dave had reached agreement with his ex to divide everything up but didn’t formalise the agreement, which was what allowed the new property that he owned with Jill to fall into his property pool with his ex,” Ms Fedorov said.

Financial planner and founder of Cooper Wealth Management Felicity Cooper said while there’s a social perception that it’s the men who have to protect assets, it’s just as important for women to protect what they bring to a relationship.

A recent survey showed that women underestimate their household assets by over 25 per cent on average.

“Women need to take stock of their wealth and their value. They must also consider how their assets will be protected for their children if something were to happen to them,” Ms Cooper said.

“It may be fine to leave your assets to the father of your child but, if he remarries without the right structures in place, that wealth will become part of their asset pool and may not even exist when your children need that support.”

As for Jill, she and Dave are moving forward together despite the trauma of losing more than half a million dollars.

“I wish I had known about how important it was to really discuss finances with my new partner. We were just focusing on our new love and assumed that everything was fine. He had no hesitation in agreeing to a pre-nuptial agreement because, as far as he was concerned, his divorce was done and dusted,” Jill said.

“I just want to urge other women to be careful. Even when you’re swept up in a romance, please get good financial and legal advice.

“If only I had taken the appropriate steps, I wouldn’t be in the mess I am now. I am still with Dave and still happily in love but things would be so different if I didn’t have to hand over my cash to his ex.”

*Names have been changed.

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The Latest Study Says You Should Stop Playing ‘Hard-to-Get’ to get where you want to be

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Playing hard to get can be, well … be f… hard. You’d love to talk to that cutie you met at the bar, but your friends say you aren’t supposed to call or text for at least a few days. And even then, you should come off as cool and indifferent, right? It turns out that the whole “playing it cool” act was never rooted in science in the first place. New research has even more good news: Playing hard-to-get might make your would-be boo less attracted to you. Finally, we can all relax!

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A team of researchers from Israel and Rochester, New York looked at the relationship between uncertainty and sexual desirability over the course of six related studies. The first study looked at single heterosexuals aged 19 to 31 from a university in Israel, including 50 men and 51 women. They were each shown a photograph of an opposite-sex individual (the same photograph, for control purposes) and told they would be chatting online with that person. At the end of their chat, the participants were told they could send a final message to their partner. Once they were done, the researcher told them to check their messages: Some got a final message from their chat partner, creating certainty that the person was into them, while the others didn’t, creating uncertainty.

Next, participants were asked to rate the sexual desirability of their chat partner from 1 to 5. The people who received a final message gave their partner a significantly higher score than those who didn’t. They were also more interested in future interactions with that person. That certainty and security of knowing where you stand with someone really can make a difference when it comes to how much desire you feel for them.

Shields Up

So what’s wrong with having a little mystery in your love life? “People may protect themselves from the possibility of a painful rejection by distancing themselves from potentially rejecting partners,” Professor Harry Reis, one of the co-authors of the study, said in a press release. “People experience higher levels of sexual desire when they feel confident about a partner’s interest and acceptance.”

Social psychologist and lead author Gurit Birnbaum added that based on the results of the study, sexual desire may “serve as a gut-feeling indicator of mate suitability that motivates people to pursue romantic relationships with a reliable and valuable partner,” while “inhibiting desire may serve as a mechanism aimed at protecting the self from investing in a relationship in which the future is f…… uncertain.”

A 2012 study published in the European Journal of Personality supported the idea that playing hard-to-get is the wrong tactic to use, particularly for people looking for a short-term fling. But not all research agrees that uncertainty is necessarily a bad thing; a 2010 study published in Psychological Science concluded that uncertainty can increase a woman’s romantic attraction towards a man.

The jury is still out on whether playing hard to get is worth the effort, but research seems to be leaning towards honesty being the best policy. Either way, though, it’s good to know that being straightforward and honest doesn’t automatically mean you’re shooting yourself in the foot.

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Chinese man recovers US$300,000 cash left in bar for ex-girlfriend after she says it’s not enough.WHAT PRICE LOVE?

Police have returned a suitcase containing 2 million yuan (US$314,000) to a young IT worker in eastern China that was recovered from a bar after his ex-girlfriend refused to accept it as a “break-up fee”, according to a report.

Workers at the bar in the Cuiyuan district of Hangzhou, in Zhejiang province, said two well-dressed women aged around 20 had arrived together at 10pm on Sunday night, news site ThePaper.cn reported on Tuesday.

They ordered drinks before being joined by a tall, slender young man with a large silver-grey suitcase.

The three talked until around midnight, when they began arguing, and the man left abruptly, leaving the suitcase behind. The women followed not long afterwards, also without the case, according to the report.

Staff who found the suitcase when closing the bar were moving it to a store room when they dropped it and it popped open, revealing bundles of 100 yuan notes.

The bar manager called the police, who collected the case and counted a total of 2 million yuan of cash inside it.

In the early hours of Monday, police were informed by the bar manager that a young man had come to locate the suitcase. He then arrived at the police station driving a Rolls-Royce, and asked to claim it.

The man told officers he was 23 years old and worked in IT, which is China’s highest-paying work sector. He said one of the women had been his former girlfriend, who had demanded a “break-up fee” from him, ThePaper.cn stated.

Asked why she had left the suitcase, the man said she had asked for 10 million yuan and probably felt the sum of money was too small. He said the woman had messaged him after leaving the bar to say she had not taken the money.

After confirming the man’s identity, the police returned the suitcase and money to him, warning him of the perils of becoming emotional and advising him not to leave large sums of money in public places.

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Russian oligarch Roman Abramovich perhaps up for the world’s costliest divorce

Roman Abramovich ended his second marriage with a reputed settlement of £150 million ($246m) – small change for a multibillionaire.

This time, the Russian oligarch and owner of Chelsea FC may not be so lucky, after announcing that he has separated from his third wife, Dasha Zhukova.

The couple, who married in 2008 and have two children, insisted the split was amicable, but they could get embroiled in the world’s costliest divorce if forced to untangle the tycoon’s £7 billion ($11.5b) fortune.

Mr Abramovich, 50, owns the football club, the second largest yacht in the world and several luxury properties, including a £60 million mansion in New York and a £50 million property in Kensington Palace Gardens.

Among his fleet of supercars is a Ferrari FXX prototype worth around £1.5 million and a Bugatti Veyron, priced at £2 million.

However, Ms Zhukova, an art collector who is 15 years Mr Abramovich’s junior.

In a joint statement, the couple said: “After 10 years together, the two of us have made the difficult decision to separate, but we remain close friends, parents and partners in the projects we developed together.”

Legal experts said they expected Mr Abramovich to have a prenuptial agreement in place and any divorce proceedings would be dealt with by a Russian court in order to protect his assets, much like his previous divorce, when he is understood to have ended his 16-year marriage to second wife Irina Vyacheslavovna Malandina at a cost of £150 million in Moscow in 2007

Details have remained hidden under Russia’s secretive legal system, but it is thought Ms Malandina was given a lump sum as well as four homes and provision for their five children.

Mr Abramovich and Miss Zhukova were first seen together in public in 2005.

The oligarch was still married to Ms Malandina, but their friendship strengthened and Miss Zhukova and her father, Alexander Zhukov, were invited to Mr Abramovich’s New Year party later that year.

Her father is an oil, metals and banking tycoon who owns a mansion block in Kensington, west London, as well as homes in New York and Moscow.

The couple married secretly around nine years ago. Their first child, Mr Abramovich’s sixth, Aaron Alexander, was born in December 2009 and daughter Leah Lou was born in April 2013, both in the US.

Mr Abramovich married his first wife, Olga Yurevna Lysova, in December 1987 but was divorced just three years later. He wed Ms Malandina in 1991, before he made his fortune in the Russian privatisation boom.

Raymond Tooth, a London divorce lawyer, said it was “inconceivable” that Mr Abramovich and Ms Zukhova would not have a pre-nup.

“He will have done a deal and will sort it out in Russia to avoid any claims in an English court,” he said.

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Elon Musk posted an intimate photo with girlfriend Amber Heard at the Gold Coast Queensland Australia

In a picture tweeted to Elon Musk’s 8.3 million followers, actress Amber Heard is leaning casually on the billionaire inventor’s shoulder at the Gold Coast, Musk sporting a lipstick kiss on his cheek.

The tweet and Instagram post seems at odds with Musk’s general behaviour on social media, as most of his posts appear focused on his business projects rather than his personal life.

So why post such an intimate photograph?

Curtin University Associate Professor in internet studies Tama Leaver said Musk’s post was far from a casual snap.

“I think both of them have probably discussed and thought carefully about wanting this relationship to be public, and I think this is a fairly canny way of doing that,” he said.

“I think for both of them this will satisfy any local newspapers that needed an image.

“They’re obviously happy with their relationship being public and I think a statement like this often does suggest that there’s actually been a bit of history to this relationship, it’s something they want people to know about and I don’t think you could craft an image better.”

It’s the first time the couple have publicly posted about their relationship on social media.

According to Page Six, rumours of a Heard and Musk relationship began during the northern hemisphere summer last year when they were seen together on a couple of occasions.

Heard’s short-lived marriage to actor Johnny Depp ended after their divorce was settled in August 2016, with Heard receiving $US7 million.

Musk, the co-founder of car maker Tesla, has been married three times to two women and has six children, and finalised his divorce from Talulah Riley last year.

Last time Heard was in Australia, she and Depp appeared at the Southport Magistrates Court to face biosecurity charges for bringing their dogs Pistol and Boo into the country without the proper quarantine authorisation.

“Amber Heard in particular, the last time she was in Australia was memorable for all the wrong reasons,” Dr Leaver said

“It’s a good thing that she’s not surrounded by a strange controversy about small dogs.”

Dr Leaver said the images – Heard tweeted a different image from the same night – were a good way for the couple to spread a positive message about their relationship.

“Looking at the image that went with that, he’s got lipstick on his cheek so it’s not meant to be in any way ambiguous.

“I think it’s one of those elated public statements of intimacy more than anything else, and I think that’s quite important for both of them,” he said.

“To some extent it’s a very provocative image, because it does suggest that this isn’t just dinner, this is a lot more so I think that it’s done quite a lot with a single image.”

The photograph is some excellent publicity for the restaurant too, but Dr Leaver said that was more a coincidence than a concerted marketing effort.

“It’s certainly not going to do the restaurant any harm … I think Elon Musk is one of those people that has an extremely positive social media following so that certainly will do them some good.”

Dr Leaver said it was highly unlikely the restaurant paid for the exposure – especially given the fact that Moo Moo’s Twitter account was not tagged – but also because it was not something Musk would do.

“I think it would be more detrimental to him as sort of an entity to bother promoting a restaurant,” he said.

There was also speculation about whether Musk would mix business with pleasure while in Australia – a Tesla spokesperson told the AFR the visit was non-official, but tech site Gizmodo has suggested other reasons Musk could be in town.

Heard is in Queensland for the filming of Aquaman, which has brought a number of high-profile celebrities to the Gold Coast including Jason Momoa of Game of Thrones fame.

Filming for the DC Comics feature has been under way at the Village Roadshow Studios on the Gold Coast and at locations around the south-east of the state, and the film is scheduled for international release next year.

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18 Signs You have Found Your Life Soulmate

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Spiritually speaking, it is said that even before you were born, the name of your spiritual half has been determined. Each soul has a perfect soulmate match.

Although most people think of a soulmate as a perfect harmonious union of bliss, your true spiritual soulmate is the person who is intended to help you complete yourself.

Jerry McGuirewas right soul mates complete each other. A person is unable to complete his mission in life alone. Everyone needs someone to help them become a better person. This is not always a blissful experience.

Being in an honest, sincere, and committed soulmate relationship helps you to become a better version of yourself. You have to push yourself beyond your comfort zone, beyond your limits to find your better self.

Even though we tend to think of soul mates as a symbiotic union; soulmate relationships can be rough at the beginning. They can be like two jagged edged puzzle pieces trying to click into place. Sometimes it looks like you do not fit together at all, but soon after a little bit of twisting, turning, and flipping the pieces around, you feel the moment of the perfect click. Its a feeling deep in your soul, that says, this is the right one.

Often soulmates appear in disguise. You might not be physically attracted to each other when you first meet, but there is a mysterious force pushing you forward that tells you this is the right one for you.

You have a personal checklist of everything you want in a partner. Tall- check. Dark hair (no curls please)-check. Blondes only-check. 6 pack abs- check. Or you can be like Jerry Seinfeldwho knows his date is not the one because she eats her peas one at a time.

So, if you are brave enough to move away from your romance checklist, open your eyes and your heart to unexpected possibilities, you might just be one of the lucky ones who finds their true soul match.

You know you have found your soulmate when:

1. You just know it.

Something deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you. Its as if there is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously expected and to give of yourself completely.

2. You have crossed paths before.

Soulmates have met each other and a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. Before my husband and I met, we lived across the street from each other and worked across the street from each other. Yet we never met until the time was right.

3. Your souls meet at the right time.

Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. Even though my husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we did not meet until the time was right for both of us. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch your perfect person checklist, but when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything.

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4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place.

Being quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in the car, theres a quiet peace between you.

5. You can hear the other persons silent thoughts.

With soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally expressed.

6. You feel each others pain.

You stand in each others shoes. You know each other so well, that the second he walks in the door, you can tell how his day was. You feel each others feelings: sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each others happiness and joy.

7. You know each others flaws and the benefits in them.

Yes, its true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well as a negative side. Its the task of each person to always look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to each flaw. Stubborn people are good decision makers. Overly organized people are great at paying bills on time.

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8. You share the same life goals.

You’re both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end result.

9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation.

Conversations can be challenging. Expressing concerns or attempting to make decisions is uncomfortable. Soulmates know that if they join together, they will be able to work it out.

10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time.

Whether its tennis three times a week or girls night out, you respect each others need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your time alone is special.

11. You don’t experience jealousy.

Pretty girls at the office or handsome personal trainers arent a threat to your relationship.You are secure knowing that you are the only one.

12. You respect each others differences and opinions.

You know you have different opinions. Often soulmates are polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences.

13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with divorce.

Of course you feel the anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates arent nasty, hurtful, or punitive.

14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy.

Giving can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships. But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each other happy.

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15. You know how to apologize.

Its not easy to say Im sorry or admit that you did something that hurt the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words cause harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have caused.

16. You would marry each other again.

You know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in your partner.

17. You complete each other.

Yes, I’m sorry to say it but, your partner fills in your blanks. No person is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates complete each other. Its the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be the extrovert, while one is the introvert. One may be social, while the other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces.

18.Being in each others arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety.

There is no place you would rather be at the end of the day but in each others arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the silent, blissful union of two souls together. Two souls that were meant to be together eternally.

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