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When it comes to your wedding day, everyone wants this day to be special and one that they will remember forever. Well these photos are extremely awkward and honestly nobody will forget these, but they are probably not what the person wanted to have from their wedding day. Some are on purpose, but a lot of them were not what you expected at all. Make sure you check out these 27 hilarious and tragically awkward wedding photos. Honestly though, they make for some amazing memories that they will be glad they have awkward or not! You won’t be able to help but laugh when you look at these pictures.

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Awkward pose for this bride above.I wonder whose idea it was

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The lads are having a good eyeful of this roller skating derby bride on wheels

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Bride & maids with matching under briefs.R they setting a trend?


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Who is with who here..???

What kind of strange wedding did we just walk into. The bride has her arm around a bridesmaid, the groom has his arm around a bridesmaid,  the bridesmaid has her arm around a bridesmaid.  Everybody gets a bridesmaid except for the servers in the back. Well, at least they’re being entertained.

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Again with the awkward posing on cars. When will people realize that this isn’t actually as cool as you think? Not that anybody was going to tell her. Certainly not the photographer. Wouldn’t be surprised if a few of the shots probably went “missing” afterwards.

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They’re busted and she knows it. I wonder what’s going through her head as she looks right at the photographer. The groom certainly doesn’t seem to mind. Hey, maybe they’re just exhibitionists. In any case, that has got to be the fluffiest wedding dress of all time

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You know you’re at the right wedding when the cops show up to arrest the bride. What could she possibly have done to deserve this? Looks like they’ll have to reschedule that honeymoon

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Lusting bridesmaid for bride or is she just hungry for love.

They’re having a blast regardless. Who needs a groom anyways?


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This wedding has gone completely out the window! All puns aside, I have no idea what’s happening at this point. Why on earth is the bride being dropped out the window? Whatever the reason, this looks like a bad sign regarding their future as a married couple…

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I’m willing to bet that this is that one cousin nobody wants to invite to the wedding, but ends up being invited anyway. I wouldn’t call this a photobomb though… It looks like this guy has been there for a while.  At least somebody is enjoying the wedding. She’s looking at his two balls.

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This girl is literally every gamer’s dream wife. The wedding is happening in twenty minutes but there’s still time for some league of legends. Until she ends up missing the ceremony because she was waiting for a game… Still worth it.

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Okay, whose brilliant idea was this? You just know it has to be the photographer. There is no way they stepped into those porta-potties and said “this looks like a great place for a photoshoot!”. What a crappy wedding photo.


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Hey now, save it for the …group honeymoon? If anybody has any idea what’s happening here, feel free to let us know because i’m pretty sure wedding orgies went out of style centuries ago

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Georgina of the jungle over here looks like she was really enjoying the photo shoot. Though it is a bit weird that it’s taking place in some sketchy park in the woods. To each their own. Watch out for that tetanus.

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The muscular bride

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Nothing says camaraderie like a synchronized fellatio.  It looks like they’re outside a fancy venue for this photo. Kind of makes you wonder how many people were watching this go down. There are so many things wrong here.

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Now that’s one heck of a wedding. Although…It might be a little hard to say “I do”  with a ball gag. Then again it’s also hard to say “I don’t” which i’m guessing is closer to what these guys were going for.

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Holy cow, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out that this wedding is in Russia. There’s no way it isn’t. Nobody brings a bear to a wedding. And no, your uncle Bernie doesn’t count.

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Now this is an intriguing photograph, just about any way you look at it. Reason is that I don’t think anyone but them will truly know why this picture was taken, or why they are doing what they are doing. Any thoughts guys? The first and only thing that comes to my mind is….Russian.

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Now this is one hilarious wedding portrait. This guy is so excited for the honeymoon that he’s bursting with joy. Meanwhile she looks like she’s beginning to regret her decision. Can you blame them?

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This traditional part of the wedding is normally harmless, but when you are in some weird, super public place, it can get awkward quickly.  Are they at Disneyland for god sake? How many passerby are you letting attend your wedding? Why is she on her cell phone? Lots of questions…

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Well aren’t they just the perfect couple? Salute to the man serving his country, now he is back home and settling down with his new wife. They both look ridiculously happy don’t they? Lets hope he still wears the pants in the relationship.


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“I’m Free!!!!” This is one of the more epic picture in this gallery. It seems as though wild thang wanted to show everyone that she was a complete virgin until today (her big day). It looks like she is even on a stage with a huge projector screen behind her. The grooms buddies better call him in the morning to make sure he is still himself. Odds say he will be a changed man

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This wedding photo may take the cake when it comes to pure WTF. We have a seemingly attractive, clean cut, and clothed bride, dancing with a super tatted, naked ginger buff guy, with a face that could be mistaken for Marilyn Manson.’s.  Did I mention he is in a man thong? Turns out he’s a semi-famous Russian body builder, named Sasha Shpak. Known for his freaky eccentric look and preference to wear minimal clothing…. as you can see.

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To my knowledge, choosing the perfect wedding dress is probably the the most important part of the wedding to women. It has to fit perfectly and some brides even go on crazy diets to fit in their dress. They at the least, make sure it fits their bodies properly. This bride is not your normal bride…

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What a perfectly timed photograph, props to whoever took this picture. Now the question is, what the hell is going on here. This guy has a beautiful new wife next to him, clearly trying to get his attention and there some one else face down in his lap, and they appear to be of the female gender. There are so many possibilities of what is really going on. What do you guys think is happening right at this very moment? Besides that the bride has some major cleavage action going on.

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Wow. This new bride didn’t leave much for the imagination. She’s wearing a rather low cut wedding dress and seems to be falling out of it almost. I’m sure the groom is not complaining, and it’s safe to say that at least half of the wedding guests don’t mind it either. Good for you newlyweds!

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Well this must have been a wild night. It also must have been awesome to be the wedding photographer at this venue. The face on the girl underneath (we will call her the horse in this situation, since she is being ridden by the cowboy bride) is priceless. She is most likely one of the bridesmaids and possibly the little sister of the bride. Yee-Haw!!

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We’re…not really sure what’s happening in this one. Is that seriously a dollar store? Are those people behind her wedding guests or customers? So many questions… Lets just hope she didn’t buy the dress there.

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What in the world is granny doing with her hand all up in there? It’s like she is either throwing up a gang sign or just trying to get her hand in the picture. Whatever she was doing, I think she succeeded. There has to be at least a 30 year age difference between Granny and Pink Shirt Guy.


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This is what appears to be a gorgeous wedding photo of a great couple until you see what looks like creepy parents in the background. Whatever this photographer was trying to do, they didn’t pull it off. The fact that the parents refuse to smile makes it look like this groom probably better watch out.

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Well this wedding did not happen as planned according to this photo. As you can see these (either newlyweds or engaged couple that were supposed to be newlyweds) are surrounded by Police. The groom is being arrested with handcuffs, face down, and the bride looks to heading in that same direction. How would it feel to get arrested on your wedding day? It goes from the best day of your life to the worst.

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This little boy’s curiosity has started pretty darn young.  It looks like he would have gotten away with it, if it weren’t for this perfectly timed photo by some talented photographer. The bride has no idea what so ever. Think he got a good look?

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This wedding party knows how to have a good time. This hilarious photo has caught them with their pants down and these girls seem to have a nice view from their spot in the shot. Now everyone is going to want groom underwear for their wedding! Hmm, do the girls have on matching underwear?

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Now this is one bouquet toss we wouldn’t mind watching over and over again. In fact, all the wedding attendees were probably like, “just wait a little longer, they are busy”. The girls lined up to catch it seem a bit preoccupied with themselves. Also why are there only three girls lined up the catch it? I guess it improves their odds. Check out the old guy taking a photos or a video of the action. He knows what he’s doing.

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This looks like it could have been a low budget wedding, which everyone can appreciate! Why spend a ton of money on one day when you can spend it on your future life, and on a sick honeymoon. But something tells me their honeymoon might have been in a motel 6 in the next state over. However what really matters is their happiness, and they do look happy…or liquored up.

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The real moment all the wedding guests had been waiting for. Some hammered member of the wedding party face plants on the tile floor!!! Once again, check out the photo timing of this hard slam to the floor, it’s almost like he anticipated it. Rob Dyrdek would call this a half-scorpion.

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Why wait for the honeymoon when you can just take her on the ground while getting your wedding pictures done? This guy just couldn’t wait and it looks like his pants are coming unfastened next! Hopefully they waited for the cameraman to leave before taking it all off and getting at it.

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Old buck & sweet young thing wedding couple walking down the isle

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Hope you have enjoyed the journey


Henry Sapiecha




The Ultimate Wedding Dress Collection of 2015

Backless Sweep Gown

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The Backless Sweep gown is a ball gown style wedding dress. It hearkens back to an era of skirts in a swirl of satin. It is adorned with tiny cap sleeves and is the picture of sheer elegance.

Mermaid Tulle

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This mermaid style wedding gown is figure hugging of a bride’s womanly curves. It is characterized by its sweetheart neckline and its chapel length train. Applique overlay adorns the hemline, and any bride would look amazing in this gown!



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If you are a fan of bows, we have found the gown for you! This particular gown features a bow in both the front and the back. It is a strapless, fit to flare style gown. This dress is cute, fun, and classy at the same time. Could a bride ask for more?

Old Hollywood Style

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If you are a fan of Old Hollywood fashion, you will love this gown. It speaks to the history of cinematic royalty and their fashion sense of decades gone by. The V-neck and the fitted waist give this wedding gown its unique shaping.

Beach Gown

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If you have a romantic wedding on the beach planned for you and your fiancé, this casual wedding dress cannot be beat! The plunging back gives way to a slight cascading train. The fitted front hints of a swimsuit styling

Illusion Gown


This Ines Di Santo wedding gown is a ‘fit to flare’ style gown. The bodice and hemlines are topped with lacy applique to give this gown a traditional touch. It is made with a petal pink underlay layer to give the illusion of a soft pink hue.

Ruffles Are Back In Style!

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If you are a girly girl bride who can’t get enough of a good thing known as the ruffle, this dress characterized by ruffles is made just for you. The strapless body hugging bodice will draw attention to your milky white shoulders and your curves. This Val Stefani creation is hot for 2015!


Understated Elegance

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If you are a bride looking to make an elegant entrance to your wedding, this gown is for you. A candlelit ceremony would be the perfect backdrop for this gown. It is simple in design, but oh so chic!

Traditional or Fluffy, You Decide!

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If you are a fan of the elegant ball gown, you will be a stylish bride in a sweeping skirt. But, to be on trend, you do not have to have a sleek gown; a gown with fluff and ruffles is also in style. No matter which skirt you choose, a romantic lacy top is a must!

Cinderella Style

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With the movie Cinderella in theaters, the skirt with lots of poof and fitted bodice is trending for 2015. Whether the illusion waist is featured in lace or if it is made in satin, a bride will look like she is stepping into her fairytale with a gown such as this. If you don’t mind showing off your cleavage on your wedding day, this gown is definitely for you

Hoped you enjoyed the wedding dress gowns presentation.



Henry Sapiecha

Love without marriage: Meet the couples shunning ‘I do’

A growing number of couples in committed long-term relationships are very consciously choosing not to get married.

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Emily Cooper and her partner of eight years Ben Morrell announced to their families they would not get married, to manage expectations. 

When Emily Cooper and her boyfriend of eight years Ben Morrell flew home one Christmas to Sydney’s northern beaches they had an announcement to make. “We’ve decided not to get married,” Emily told her family and close friends.

“Although it seemed a little strange, we purposefully told them in order to manage their expectations,” the 29-year-old virtual assistant recalls. “I’ve always said getting married was not for me.”

Ben had already broken the news to his English family during a weekend in Amsterdam. “I told them that if we say ‘we have some news’ in the future it is more likely to be a baby than a wedding!”

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Jo Bassett and Andrew Gillette with their two children, Isabella and Nathaniel, say marriage would not change their commitment. Photo: Supplied

Three months ago Emily and Ben welcomed a son, Sullivan – and no one has said anything to them about having a baby and not being married. “It hasn’t appeared to be an issue for anyone we know,” Emily says.

Like Emily and Ben, a growing number of couples in committed long-term relationships who have children (or intend to) and share a home and finances, are very consciously choosing not to say I do.
Women driving change

Sixteen per cent of Australian couples now live in a de facto relationship, according to the latest census, up from 10 per cent fifteen years ago. The proportion of cohabiting couples who are unmarried and have children has risen from 4 per cent to 11 per cent.

Yet while Beyonce extols men to “put a ring on it” it’s actually women who are driving this massive social change.

They’re not hardline feminazis raging against a patriarchal institution but bright, practical, independent women who can’t see what difference a wedding would make to the security and stability of their partnership.


Educated, making their own money and enjoying sexual freedom, these women are proud their social status is no longer tied to their marital status.

“The liberation of women includes the idea that women are free to make choices about everything – including fertility and cohabitation – that their own mothers did not feel free to make,” social researcher Hugh Mackay notes.

“That stereotype [of women desperate to marry] is completely wrong. Overwhelmingly women are taking the power of making that decision themselves.”

It might be because they’d prefer to spend their money on a house than “the big day”, they’ve been burnt in the past by divorce, or because they don’t have any religious beliefs which necessitate a blessing of their union. Many women say they just don’t need a marriage certificate to validate their relationship.

“I’ve always been a bit nonplussed about marriage,” Emily Cooper says. “I know we’re going to be together forever, we love each other, we’re one 100 per cent committed. We own property together, all our finances are shared. Even if we were married it would be a very similar situation in our day-to-day lives.”
Lesson learnt is ‘keep your options open’

Mackay says couples increasingly don’t want their relationship entangled in the church or state, and he believes there is an element of commitment-phobia in the rise of de facto relationships.

“People who have grown up in the last 30 years have experienced a very revolutionary period,” he says. “They’re the offspring of the most divorced generation, they’ve lived through a lot of economic uncertainty, the gender revolution is continuing. The lesson they’ve learnt is ‘keep your options open’.”

But Lyn Fletcher from Relationships Australia argues few de facto couples are together “for the fun of it” or to see if it works out. “There is a level of engagement, commitment and permanency in their relationships that they expect to continue. It’s not about marriage being wrong, it’s about what else does marriage give you that de facto doesn’t?”

Ben Morrell admits it was tough for him to decide not to get married. “Before I met Emily I definitely assumed I would get married. I come from a Christian family and I guess I presumed it would be the status quo.”

The couple went back and forth on the marriage question for a year. It helped that they had just moved to the “neutral territory” of Singapore for work.

“We didn’t have the influence of family and friends and society,” Emily says. “It gave us time to reflect on it, what do we really want – rather than what is everyone else doing. We had to be really open and honest with each other.”

Eventually Ben realised that if marriage was supposed to be “the ultimate commitment and compromise” he couldn’t pressure Emily into it.

“Forcing Emily to do something one way without consideration for her views seems illogical,” he explains. “To me it’s so much more important that I am with the right person [than being married].”

Now Ben can see the benefits of their choice. “It’s cheaper! Seriously, it seems some people are on pause, saving hard for two years for one day and waiting to ‘start’ their life together. It’s also [good] to think that we haven’t just gone with arguably the easier route and got married for the sake of it. I’m proud of that.”
‘Born out of wedlock’ now an anachronism

Although 53 per cent of Australian adults are in a registered marriage, according to the Bureau of Statistics, the crude marriage rate has fallen from 9.3 marriages per 1000 people in 1970 to 5.2 marriages per 1000 people in 2014.

Half a century ago children born outside of marriage were classified as “illegitimate”, and shotgun weddings or forced adoptions were common to avoid the shame of being an unmarried mother. A woman relied upon a man for financial security and couples who shacked up without marrying were “living in sin”.

In 1960 only 5 per cent of babies were born outside marriage, rising to 12 per cent in 1980. The term “born out of wedlock” has become an anachronism in the 21st century, with a third of children born outside marriage in 2011.

While this figure includes babies born to single mothers, Australian Institute of Family Studies researcher Lixia Qu says most of the growth is due to the increasing number of couples opting to have children within de facto relationships.

Living in Asia has made Emily Cooper and Ben Morrell realise how accepted de facto relationships are in Australia. Here government forms include a de facto box you can tick, couples who have been living together for more than two years have rights to each other’s property, and the Family Court treats de facto parents exactly the same as married parents.

“As a woman there is a whole new feminist movement which makes it fine [not to be married],” Emily observes. “It used to be that you’d have no social standing if you weren’t married. I’m happy people don’t judge you like that these days. We’re lucky we live in a Western society where we can do what we want to do and not be dictated to by whoever.”

With one in three marriages breaking now down , the experience of divorce has sullied some couples’ views of marriage. Whether their parents split up when they were little, or their own marriage didn’t last, they’re well aware a marriage certificate doesn’t future-proof a relationship.
A testament to trust and commitment

When her marriage ended after four years, Vicki Stirling decided she wouldn’t walk down the aisle again. “I felt marriage didn’t mean anything anymore,” she says. “Relationships break down whether you’re married or not.”

The 41-year-old fashion and lifestyle business consultant made this “perfectly clear” to Sebastien Verrier when their relationship blossomed after meeting at a work conference in Malta. While Vicki believes the Catholic-raised Frenchman had grown up expecting he would marry, Sebastien says marriage was not that important to him because his parents divorced when he was ten.

The couple have been together for nine years and now live in Melbourne’s Brunswick with their five-year-old son Isaac and 13-year-old Millie from Vicki’s previous marriage.

Sebastien jokes the couple would be “no good” at being married. “There is a pressure that sometimes comes with being married,” Vicki says, who remembers how her mother told her it was her “duty” to stay with her ex-husband even though she was no longer happy. “We don’t need that. We’ve got a good partnership.”

Many de facto couples believe they work harder at their relationship precisely because they’re not married, and argue their de facto status is a testament to their level of trust and commitment.


“We have to make more of an effort to keep loving each other [because] there is not a piece of paper linking us together,” Sebastien says. Vicki agrees: “When we do go through hard times – and we do – there is nothing else apart from our relationship keeping us together. It’s not because we’re married.”

A de facto relationship is up to five times more likely than a marriage to end within five years, according to the AIFS. “Mentally and emotionally de facto feels different to marriage, which is why it can feel somewhat easier to walk away,” Hugh Mackay says.
Kids ‘like a line in the sand’

Forty per cent of de facto couples expect to get married in the future, and the arrival of children often pushes them to take that step. Yet some couples say having children solidified their commitment to their de facto status.

“When we had kids it was like a line in the sand was drawn,” 44-year-old life coach Jo Bassett recalls.

“It was like ‘I’m really committed to this man and this family’. I realised it’s very important mum and dad stay together. I’m not mucking around now, it’s really serious now what we’re doing.”

Jo Bassett and Andrew Gillette met on the NSW central coast in their late teens, and have been a couple for 20 years. Jo believes not being married engenders a sense of freedom of choice.

“There is an element that we are choosing to stay together, maybe there is a freshness,” she says. “At first I’m choosing to be with you because I love and adore you. When that starts to fade and look a bit tarnished, I’m choosing to be with you because of this family we are creating together.”

Andrew will often say “We share our house, we share the kids, we share our debt. What else is there?”

Their ten year-old daughter Isabella and nine year-old son Nathaniel sometimes ask their parents when they’re going to get married. “I say ‘mum and dad love you, really nothing would change’,” Jo explains. “This is their reality, they’ve got a pretty good one. Mum and dad are together, we don’t fight very often, there is a lot of love.”


Relationships Australia’s Lyn Fletcher says most children wouldn’t be aware of whether their parents were married or de facto. “The most important thing to them is that mum and dad are a constant in their life, they have a sound relationship and they can depend on them. It’s not their legal status.”

Despite the growing prevalence of de facto relationships, couples say they’re still treated as a curiosity by some people. “People say ‘you guys should get married, you’d made a cute couple’. It’s like ‘are we not a cute couple now?’,” Vicki Stirling says.

“Sometimes I want to call them on it – ‘why did you feel you had to get married? Don’t you trust your relationship?’ We don’t need a piece of paper to say we’ll be together forever.”


Henry Sapiecha


How to keep your relationship alive

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Tips for building a lasting relationship. 

Though we wish it wasn’t so, relationships aren’t like they seem in the movies.

Instead, they are often hard. They require work and are sometimes messy.

Love is a fundamental part of staying together but, relationship specialist Christina Spaccavento says it “isn’t the only factor that keeps a relationship healthy.”

Here’s seven tips from the experts for keeping your relationship alive.



The saying communication is key, is popular advice for a reason: because it works.

Spaccavento says, “Poor communication skills can destroy a relationship and it is often due to misunderstanding.”

Individuals have their own style of communicating and Gary Chapman’s, The 5 Love Languages is a great place to start understanding your partner’s communication style.

Avoid the blame game

It might be great having your partner as a scapegoat to blame all of your problems on, but Spaccavento doesn’t recommend it.

“Once we enter into a union with someone, it is essential to understand that we have entered a dynamic. So each person is likely to trigger the other one’s stuff,” she said.

“By owning and working through your own stuff you remove blame from your partner as well as improve your own ability to accept the differences of your partner.”

Invest in your relationship

Similar to sex, relationships should be viewed like you would anything else you are interested in such as a “mutual hobby”.

Spaccavento said, “Invest in your relationship like you would anything else you are passionate about and interested in.

“This means seeing it as a living, breathing organism that needs your time, energy and nurturing for it to flourish.”

Celebrating your wins together

Celebrating the positives together is a really important aspect of keeping a relationship alive.

In her book, For Better: How the Surprising Science of Happy Couples Can Help Your Marriage Succeed, New York Times writer Tara Parker-Pope wrote: “It’s not enough that your partner knows that you take pride in his or her accomplishments. You have to show it. Making a fuss over the small, good things that happen every day can boost the health of your marriage.”

Similarly, Spaccavento says, “When you get together with someone, you become a team, so sharing your wins is a beautiful way to include your partner and share your joy together.”


Be mindful of the role technology plays in your relationship

Phubbing: the act of snubbing someone in favour of a mobile phone. It’s so common, there’s even a website created to spread awareness about the act. New research published in the journal Computers in Human Behavior found more than 46 per cent of participants had been phubbed by their partner.

Study co-author James A. Roberts told Yahoo Health, “We found that the ones that reported higher partner phubbing fought more with their partner and were less satisfied with their relationship than those who reported less phubbing.”

Taking into consideration your technology use and the impact it has on your partner is essential. “Having some ground rules around duration and location of technology usage is a great idea so that both partners can stay present and connected with each other,” says Spaccavento.

Don’t expect your spouse to make you happy

The only person responsible for your happiness is you.

“It sounds cheesy,” says Spaccavento. “But happiness really does come from within.”

For anyone struggling to find happiness, she recommends working with a qualified therapist to resolve any “happiness blockers.”


Don’t take your partner for granted

As a result of busy lives, whether it’s because of kids, extended family or your career, partners can sometimes take a back seat.

Trained couples and family therapist for Relationship Australia Matt Garrett says, “Acknowledging the commitment you’ve made to the other person and why” is important.

“You can do that on your own, but it really is about letting the other person know that they are in your mind.”

For busy couples Garrett suggests “carving out time” together. “It doesn’t happen automatically so you have to sit down and work out when that time is with no distractions where you prioritise that relationship.”


Henry Sapiecha