Chances are we’re more likely to date someone who has an ex

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MOST people would agree choosing “the right” partner is fairly important, and a bad selection in this area can be devastating.

Most people want to attract a partner, and this involves a combination of self-promotion, and taking down the competition in order to appear to be “the right” partner.

Some of our efforts are conscious and some are unconscious.

Research has found people with relationship experience, all else being equal, tend to be more romantically desirable than people without relationship experience.

In other words, people are attracted to others who have already been “pre-selected” (or pre-approved).

We call this phenomenon “mate copying”.

Mate copying can be thought of as purchasing a product (a romantic partner) after seeing others (former partners) “use” it.

By virtue of having been in a relationship, an individual is communicating they have “desirable” romantic characteristics (these have appealed to at least one person previously) and you can be confident there is something about them that is appealing.

Do men and women mate copy?

In a sense the previous partners of a person are “endorsing” them, or attesting to their romantic competence. By doing so, they are indirectly offering relevant information about the person.

But why might this be useful? Well, if you are going to make an important decision (who to partner) you generally want a fair bit of relevant information. Knowing someone else has been chosen before is additional relevant information that will help you make your decision.

But there is a sex-difference here, and it essentially comes down to biology. There is plenty of literature supporting the idea men are largely attracted by physical qualities (physical beauty, youthfulness).

Women, however, are generally attracted to less observable characteristics (social dominance, kindness). Where men can get a fair bit of mate-relevant information from simple observation of a potential partner, women can’t, and are encouraged to look for additional information. One cheap source is knowing what other women think of a man, specifically, whether or not he is considered a good romantic prospect.

While some researchers have found evidence of mate copying in men, there is a fair bit of literature suggesting the phenomenon is quite a bit stronger among women.

One reason for this is men don’t get as much out of mate copying as women do. The information gains men achieve by knowing what other men think about a woman are marginal.

Being in a relationship is attractive … or is it?

Although you may not have heard of “mate copying”, you may have heard of “the wedding ring effect”. This broadly describes the popular(ish) belief that wearing a wedding ring makes a man desirable, because he has obviously won the romantic favour of at least one opposite-sex person (his wife), and he is willing to commit.

Given indicating a willingness to commit makes a man very attractive, and considering he is conveying a lot of positive characteristics (he’s likely a good partner, he’s willing to commit), the persistence of this belief is not surprising.

However, evidence does not support the idea married men are more desirable than single men. A big reason for this is married individuals are so much harder to attract and/or date than single individuals. Also, there are some strong moral proscriptions against pursuing a married person.

It’s not all about quantity

One of the interesting things about mate copying is that, like with many things, quality is more important than quantity. It’s known a man is much more desirable if his female partner (current or former) is highly attractive (than if she is less attractive). But we also know that while a moderate amount of relationship experience makes a man more desirable than if he has none, too much makes him really undesirable.

A study I co-authored looked at how romantically desirable a man was perceived to be, as a function of how many partners he’d had in the past four years. Men with one or two previous partners were far more desirable than men with none, but men with five were far less desirable than any of these.

This non-linear relationship might seem curious – if a bit of relationship experience is desirable, wouldn’t a lot of experience be really desirable? Well, no, and the reason probably has something to do with promiscuity.

While having had five or more previous partners is certainly far from unheard of, it may indicate the person can’t or won’t maintain a relationship for long. Maybe they have trouble committing, or maybe they are more interested in quantity. Whatever the case, they are indicating undesirable relationship qualities.

Mate copying among nonhumans has received a lot of attention in the past several decades, with numerous authors finding evidence for it in aquatic, avian and terrestrial animals. While enquiry into the existence of the phenomenon among humans began far more recently, preliminary evidence suggests it definitely exists and is an extremely powerful attraction force.


Henry Sapiecha

Victims of the Ashley Madison hack reveal the traumatic impact on their relationships

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A YEAR on from one of the world’s most devastating cyber crimes, the victims have told how the scandal changed their lives.

Hackers last year released the personal details of 35 million members of adulterous dating site Ashley Madison.

Divorce, shame and even suicide was the result of Impact’s cyber attack. At least two deaths were linked to the leak, after police in Canada reported the victims had taken their own lives.

And now documentary makers in the UK have met the victims of the exposure, both site customers and their spurned partners, The Sun report.

At the time, millions of people were actively using Ashley Madison to embark on discreet affairs with a low risk of their partner or spouse finding out

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Former Ashley Madison CEO Noel Biderman. Picture: Supplied

Tamsin Smythe, from Virginia, was one of those affected by the leak.

She is unmarried, but has always shunned traditional relationships in favour of affairs and “quick hook-ups” — and says she met politicians, company CEOs and managers online.

Smythe told the Channel 4’s Sex, Lies, and Cyber Attacks: “Initially men are very hesitant to make the first move. When we start talking they want to find out, ‘Are you real? Do you really live in the United States?’

“Then once you start talking inevitably men have this sensational desire to send you d**k pictures. Sometimes it’s even the first picture — you don’t even know what their face looks like.”

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Hackers gave Avid Media 30 days to close down sites Ashley Madison and Established Men, where rich men seek beautiful women, under the threat of releasing the information.

CEO Noel Biderman refused, and 35 million details were released. He has since stepped down from his post.

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Tamsin Smythe met politicians, company CEOs and managers online. Picture: Channel 4

Smythe said of that fateful day: “I was in a meeting room and all of a sudden my phone is dancing across the table.

“I’m trying to concentrate and I’m looking over and I’m seeing the names of business associates, business clients, friends of mine, people I had met on Ashley Madison contacting me and my heart sank. I had met and talked to quite a few of the gentleman — their wives were decimated and hurt and they wanted to talk.”

The program also exposes the lengths site creators went to, to make more cash.

Male users had to buy credits to speak to female members, and 837 “fembots” were circling the site, writing to gullible men.

Exposed user Christopher Russell said: “They made it sound like this playland of people hooking up and there’s millions of women here and they’re all interested in you.

“I had contact with probably around 200 profiles and out of those I believe I spoke to one actual person.”

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Exposed user Christopher Russell reckons he spoke to just one real user on Ashley Madison. Picture: Channel 4

Back in 2012, an anonymous victim known as “Jim”, from Idaho, discovered his wife and mother of his five kids was using Ashley Madison — and had had six affairs. They are now divorced.

“I threw up. It’s stuff you can never un-know, never un-see. There was a video someone sent me and it was her having sex,” he said.

“I have kids. I did not want to raise them up with a broken home. I felt like it was my fault. I felt responsible.

“I just tried talking to her and explaining, ‘You know I love you. We have five kids, let’s not destroy this family’. It took a long time before I stopped getting nauseous. I had to physically withdraw from Ashley Madison until the hack. That was a good day.”


Henry Sapiecha

18 Signs You have Found Your Life Soulmate

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Spiritually speaking, it is said that even before you were born, the name of your spiritual half has been determined. Each soul has a perfect soulmate match.

Although most people think of a soulmate as a perfect harmonious union of bliss, your true spiritual soulmate is the person who is intended to help you complete yourself.

Jerry McGuirewas right soul mates complete each other. A person is unable to complete his mission in life alone. Everyone needs someone to help them become a better person. This is not always a blissful experience.

Being in an honest, sincere, and committed soulmate relationship helps you to become a better version of yourself. You have to push yourself beyond your comfort zone, beyond your limits to find your better self.

Even though we tend to think of soul mates as a symbiotic union; soulmate relationships can be rough at the beginning. They can be like two jagged edged puzzle pieces trying to click into place. Sometimes it looks like you do not fit together at all, but soon after a little bit of twisting, turning, and flipping the pieces around, you feel the moment of the perfect click. Its a feeling deep in your soul, that says, this is the right one.

Often soulmates appear in disguise. You might not be physically attracted to each other when you first meet, but there is a mysterious force pushing you forward that tells you this is the right one for you.

You have a personal checklist of everything you want in a partner. Tall- check. Dark hair (no curls please)-check. Blondes only-check. 6 pack abs- check. Or you can be like Jerry Seinfeldwho knows his date is not the one because she eats her peas one at a time.

So, if you are brave enough to move away from your romance checklist, open your eyes and your heart to unexpected possibilities, you might just be one of the lucky ones who finds their true soul match.

You know you have found your soulmate when:

1. You just know it.

Something deep inside tells you this is the perfect one for you. Its as if there is a spiritual force pushing you to let go of everything you previously expected and to give of yourself completely.

2. You have crossed paths before.

Soulmates have met each other and a previous time. You may not have connected, but you were in the same place, at the same time. Before my husband and I met, we lived across the street from each other and worked across the street from each other. Yet we never met until the time was right.

3. Your souls meet at the right time.

Each person has to be ready to receive the soul connection. Even though my husband and I were in close proximity of each other for many years, we did not meet until the time was right for both of us. You have to be prepared to meet your soulmate. It could be that you have to go through a relationship that doesn’t work out, or that you’re not ready to ditch your perfect person checklist, but when it comes to soulmates- timing is everything.


4. Your quiet space is a peaceful place.

Being quiet together is comforting like a fluffy down blanket on a cold winter night. Whether you are reading in the same room, or driving in the car, theres a quiet peace between you.

5. You can hear the other persons silent thoughts.

With soulmates, there is such depth to your relationship that you can feel and hear what your partner is thinking, even if it is not verbally expressed.

6. You feel each others pain.

You stand in each others shoes. You know each other so well, that the second he walks in the door, you can tell how his day was. You feel each others feelings: sadness, worry, and stress. And you share each others happiness and joy.

7. You know each others flaws and the benefits in them.

Yes, its true. Our flaws have benefits. Every trait has a positive as well as a negative side. Its the task of each person to always look for the good, even when things don’t look so good. There is usually a benefit to each flaw. Stubborn people are good decision makers. Overly organized people are great at paying bills on time.


8. You share the same life goals.

You’re both on the same page with values, ethics, and goals. You may have a different way of reaching those goals, but you both want the same end result.

9. You’re not afraid of having a conversation.

Conversations can be challenging. Expressing concerns or attempting to make decisions is uncomfortable. Soulmates know that if they join together, they will be able to work it out.

10. You are not threatened by the need for alone time.

Whether its tennis three times a week or girls night out, you respect each others need for independence, knowing that when you get together, your time alone is special.

11. You don’t experience jealousy.

Pretty girls at the office or handsome personal trainers arent a threat to your relationship.You are secure knowing that you are the only one.

12. You respect each others differences and opinions.

You know you have different opinions. Often soulmates are polar opposite. At times this is challenging. These are the times when you are being forced to let the other person complete you. You still have your own opinion, but instead of agreeing to disagree, there is a deep level of respect for each other. You listen and honor the differences.

13. You don’t scream, curse, or threaten each other with divorce.

Of course you feel the anger. People unintentionally hurt each other. But soulmates arent nasty, hurtful, or punitive.

14. You give in because you want to make your partner happy.

Giving can often occur in unhealthy, co-dependent, or abusive relationships. But soulmates give to each other for the sole purpose of making each other happy.


15. You know how to apologize.

Its not easy to say Im sorry or admit that you did something that hurt the person you love. Soulmates realize that their actions or words cause harm. Even if they feel justified in their point of view, if their partner was hurt by it, they can easily apologize for the harm they have caused.

16. You would marry each other again.

You know this is the one and only one for you. Even through the tough times, you would choose your partner again. You feel a sense of pride in your partner.

17. You complete each other.

Yes, I’m sorry to say it but, your partner fills in your blanks. No person is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Soulmates complete each other. Its the yin and yang of perfect harmony. One person may be the extrovert, while one is the introvert. One may be social, while the other a homebody. Soulmates are often opposite that are attracted to a person who has their missing pieces.

18.Being in each others arms washes away all your stress, worries, and anxiety.

There is no place you would rather be at the end of the day but in each others arms. If you had a rough day filled with disagreements, a fight with your boss or if you missed the train, whatever happened is gone the second you cuddle up together. There is a warmth in your heart, an inner peace you can feel. No words need to be spoken. All that exists is the silent, blissful union of two souls together. Two souls that were meant to be together eternally.


Henry Sapiecha

This simple trait in men attracts women to them like a magnet

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Spin a good yarn?
Salman Rushdie with former wife, Padma Lakshmi.

Seduce my mind and you can have my body, wrote M.D Waters in her novel, Archetype.

Turns out there is truth to this – for women, at least.


A new study by psychology researchers from the University of North Carolina has found that the ability to spin a good yarn makes men more attractive. It also improves their status, in the eyes of women.

Conversely, women’s storytelling abilities did not affect the men’s perception of her attractiveness as a potential partner.

“Telling stories is a universal human activity, and effective storytellers can bring about comfort, joy, and excitement to their audiences,” wrote lead researcher, John Donahue.

It was this ability to evoke positive states in others that makes storytelling an attractive quality, Donahue explained.

In three separate studies, men who were supposedly good storytellers were rated as being more attractive short and long-term mates. Participants also rated good storytellers as having positive personality traits, including intelligence, prestige, ambition, dominance and sense of humour.

Good female storytellers were considered more intelligent but were not rated as more physically attractive or a more appealing partner.



“Evolutionary psychologists generally follow a distinction in women’s attraction to men between the traits that indicate ‘good genes’ and the traits of a ‘good dad’ – the latter was suggested as the basis for storytelling ability being a positive evolutionary trait,” Donahue hypothesised.

“The fact that storytelling ability was not valued for both men and women, but only for women alone and primarily for long-term relationships, suggested that women desire a “good dad” and that storytelling ability reflects a man’s having the potential to gain resources.

“Beyond the idea that women are attracted to a man who is a ‘good dad’ (one who can provide tangible resources) the results… may imply that women actually instead prefer a man of high status (who presumably could gain resources through his talents or position).”

Donahue says that further studies needs to be done to understand whether other skills (like cooking or artistic talent) also make for a more attractive partner, but his findings adds to a body of research that has found that looks are less important to women than other qualities.


Henry Sapiecha



Many are searching for their big love online. My friend John* (name was changed at his request) is one of them and has already registered with four different dating services. He keeps me posted on his dating experiences there and I have begun to seriously doubt the validity and integrity of these portals. With slogans such as “Guaranteed contacts” and the premise that members will fall in love at second intervals, I believe there’s only one guarantee – there will be considerable costs.

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That’s what we’d all like online dating to be

At the beginning, things will usually look very promising – creating your profile is free and, if you believe the ads, numerous women were already waiting for him. And won’t you believe it, within hours after his registration, various ladies visited his profile and, depending on the service, left smileys, short messages or virtual kisses. The problem was that only paying members were able to respond and get in touch with them. But since his chances were so high and life as a single is so hard he happily opened his wallet.


The search for love can be an expensive undertaking – John had to pay between €120 and €450 for three of his dating services. Naturally, contacts were “guaranteed” and the big love among the millions of members was said to be just one click away. Initially, he was confident and astonished at how many women were interested in him, a seemingly average guy. But after a few days, things got uncomfortably quiet. Ladies either didn’t write back, their profiles vanished or the reply was something like “I’ve found my true love. Good luck with your search.”

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Since John is single not stupid, he did some research. It turned out there were countless similar cases. His worst suspicions were confirmed a few days later when “Lovoo” gained notoriety: The company allegedly used fake profiles to lure visitors into becoming paying members. Using stolen photos, made-up biographies and hordes of female writers (if they were female, that is), love interests were faked to attract customers. And it would never have come out without a whistleblower that handed revealing documents over to the media. So now we have a first prime suspect – and even more suspicions towards other similar services.


If you look up related terms on Google such as the name of a dating service and “scam”, you’ll quickly find that they’ve taken precautions! Multiple sites, obviously created by the affected companies themselves, will tell you that there’s no foul play involved, everything is fair and square. But they handled things a little too professionally. Who’d write glowing reviews about these services and wrap everything in a visually highly professional layout unless they were involved? This is obviously meant to impede any serious investigation into the dark side of these million dollar businesses. In all my years of research, I’ve never encountered this type of behavior!

Reason enough to cancel your subscription? That’s what John thought and he tried to terminate his accounts in due form and time. But the service providers put up as many hurdles as possible, requiring him to send everything by mail (in one case) and to go through grueling cancellation procedures (he had to fill in data that even he as an experienced computer user had trouble finding in his account). And once he got through all of that, there was more trouble ahead in the form of so-called compensation.

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Not a case of big love but a case for the courts

With only a few days of use, he expected to get back most of what he had paid but one provider thought otherwise: He was told that they had held up their end of the deal (he had made contact with women) which is why they’d keep 75% of the money he paid. They had charged him a princely sum each time he clicked on a contact’s page (naturally, this includes the many profiles that vanished rapidly). This case will most likely end up in court quite soon – and John ended up single, again.

So far, so annoying. Frankly, I’m not trying to demonize an entire line of business but we need to be wary of all too big promises and also keep an eye on costs. Treat overly positive or professionally made reviews with suspicion and look beyond the first pages in your search results. And if you’re wondering whether I’m John – I’ve not met my better half through a dating service – but through Facebook. 🙂


What I would like to know: Have you had any experience with dating services? Did John just have bad luck? Feel free to comment (anonymously).


Henry Sapiecha

The Science of Love

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Love at 1st site is real it seems

OK, so maybe not fully developed love, but a quick passionate response is possible. Your brain can release love-related chemicals in a split second after you spy someone you love. A 2010 study also showed that new love really is like a drug. It sparks the same euphoric feeling as cocaine — in the same part of the brain.

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Henry Sapiecha


Escaping Bride Groom
Escaping Bride Groom

There is probably no worse feeling in a relationship than suspecting or knowing that your partner is being unfaithful. The cold fingers of dread that creep up your spine and start to squeeze your heart so hard that it disintegrates into a thousand pieces.

Some might think I’m being dramatic, but for those who have felt it, you will know it’s an understatement of the wave of emotions that can hit us when we find out the person we loved and trusted has betrayed us. And with the boom of technology and social media, it seems that we have even more ways our relationships can be threatened these days.

Of course, relationships break down because for a variety of reasons and issues, but I’m focusing on why someone is capable of throwing everything away for a moment of passion with another?


Here are six possible reasons why people cheat:

1. Insecurity

Being unfaithful can often be the result of a person feeling very insecure within themselves. Whether they suffer from low self-esteem, depression or have past issues they haven’t dealt with, it can all manifest in a way that is detrimental to themselves and their relationships.

When people are insecure, they often cause drama in their life without even meaning to do so. However, more often than not they will use their fears or state of mind as an excuse for their behaviour and play the role of the victim (even though they clearly were the one in the wrong). So, don’t kid yourself… no matter how low or insecure they feel, they are still responsible for their actions, and what they have done is not justifiable.

2. Fear of commitment

For some people, being committed to someone means that they then have a certain expectation placed upon them which they feel they can’t live up to. They might see being in a monogamous relationship as an end of fun and freedom, or that you will, in some way, expect them to be more than they are.

Being in a committed relationship can also make people feel vulnerable, because it will essentially require a lot more of oneself than a one-night stand and it has a whole lot more consequences than a non-committed relationship.

3. They feel neglected

Your partner needs attention, romance and to feel loved and appreciated. Life can get busy, especially with children, work, cleaning and everything else, but the moment we start letting our priorities get out of order is the moment we start to invite temptation and issues into our relationship.

Your actions and words have the power to build your partner up or tear them down. They will also indicate what you think of your spouse and where your relationship lies on your priority list. No one likes to feel neglected and unappreciated as it can breed bitterness and resentment.

4. Needs are no longer being met

It’s not rocket science, nor is it a news flash: Men are physical and need sex, and women need affection and attention. This isn’t about having to be physically intimate with your partner every single day, because if that’s what they want then I’m afraid there is an even bigger issue at hand. *cough*

Regular intercourse will, however, help to create and keep that close intimate bond between you and it will satisfy his natural urges and needs, which, in turn, usually makes him a more desirable and loving partner.

Men also need to be aware that a woman needs to feel loved, romanced and valued, as well as physically fulfilled.


5. They love the chase

There will be people that are only in it for the thrill, and these are the ones who usually have a track record of the ‘hit and run’ method: they hit your heart — and your booty — hard and then run as soon as things become too serious and complicated. This person doesn’t want to commit because that represents the end of fun. Instead they get their kicks out of pursuing and chasing someone new and once they have caught them, they will instinctively look for another soon after to offer them the buzz they are after.

6. They have fallen out of love or feel your relationship has become complacent

Love is not just a feeling, it’s an action that needs to happen daily regardless of the situation or emotions you are feeling at the time. It’s no secret that you’ve got to work hard at your relationship so that it doesn’t become stale, one-sided or loveless.

Partners can and will cheat if they have fallen out of love or feel like their relationship has died. Does it make it excusable? No. Understandable perhaps, but at any rate, if a someone feels the need to have an affair after being faithful for a long time then clearly there were problems going on long before the act itself.


Henry Sapiecha


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When it comes to your wedding day, everyone wants this day to be special and one that they will remember forever. Well these photos are extremely awkward and honestly nobody will forget these, but they are probably not what the person wanted to have from their wedding day. Some are on purpose, but a lot of them were not what you expected at all. Make sure you check out these 27 hilarious and tragically awkward wedding photos. Honestly though, they make for some amazing memories that they will be glad they have awkward or not! You won’t be able to help but laugh when you look at these pictures.

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Awkward pose for this bride above.I wonder whose idea it was

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The lads are having a good eyeful of this roller skating derby bride on wheels

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Bride & maids with matching under briefs.R they setting a trend?


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Who is with who here..???

What kind of strange wedding did we just walk into. The bride has her arm around a bridesmaid, the groom has his arm around a bridesmaid,  the bridesmaid has her arm around a bridesmaid.  Everybody gets a bridesmaid except for the servers in the back. Well, at least they’re being entertained.

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Again with the awkward posing on cars. When will people realize that this isn’t actually as cool as you think? Not that anybody was going to tell her. Certainly not the photographer. Wouldn’t be surprised if a few of the shots probably went “missing” afterwards.

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They’re busted and she knows it. I wonder what’s going through her head as she looks right at the photographer. The groom certainly doesn’t seem to mind. Hey, maybe they’re just exhibitionists. In any case, that has got to be the fluffiest wedding dress of all time

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You know you’re at the right wedding when the cops show up to arrest the bride. What could she possibly have done to deserve this? Looks like they’ll have to reschedule that honeymoon

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Lusting bridesmaid for bride or is she just hungry for love.

They’re having a blast regardless. Who needs a groom anyways?


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This wedding has gone completely out the window! All puns aside, I have no idea what’s happening at this point. Why on earth is the bride being dropped out the window? Whatever the reason, this looks like a bad sign regarding their future as a married couple…

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I’m willing to bet that this is that one cousin nobody wants to invite to the wedding, but ends up being invited anyway. I wouldn’t call this a photobomb though… It looks like this guy has been there for a while.  At least somebody is enjoying the wedding. She’s looking at his two balls.

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This girl is literally every gamer’s dream wife. The wedding is happening in twenty minutes but there’s still time for some league of legends. Until she ends up missing the ceremony because she was waiting for a game… Still worth it.

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Okay, whose brilliant idea was this? You just know it has to be the photographer. There is no way they stepped into those porta-potties and said “this looks like a great place for a photoshoot!”. What a crappy wedding photo.


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Hey now, save it for the …group honeymoon? If anybody has any idea what’s happening here, feel free to let us know because i’m pretty sure wedding orgies went out of style centuries ago

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Georgina of the jungle over here looks like she was really enjoying the photo shoot. Though it is a bit weird that it’s taking place in some sketchy park in the woods. To each their own. Watch out for that tetanus.

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The muscular bride

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Nothing says camaraderie like a synchronized fellatio.  It looks like they’re outside a fancy venue for this photo. Kind of makes you wonder how many people were watching this go down. There are so many things wrong here.

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Now that’s one heck of a wedding. Although…It might be a little hard to say “I do”  with a ball gag. Then again it’s also hard to say “I don’t” which i’m guessing is closer to what these guys were going for.

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Holy cow, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out that this wedding is in Russia. There’s no way it isn’t. Nobody brings a bear to a wedding. And no, your uncle Bernie doesn’t count.

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Now this is an intriguing photograph, just about any way you look at it. Reason is that I don’t think anyone but them will truly know why this picture was taken, or why they are doing what they are doing. Any thoughts guys? The first and only thing that comes to my mind is….Russian.

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Now this is one hilarious wedding portrait. This guy is so excited for the honeymoon that he’s bursting with joy. Meanwhile she looks like she’s beginning to regret her decision. Can you blame them?

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This traditional part of the wedding is normally harmless, but when you are in some weird, super public place, it can get awkward quickly.  Are they at Disneyland for god sake? How many passerby are you letting attend your wedding? Why is she on her cell phone? Lots of questions…

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Well aren’t they just the perfect couple? Salute to the man serving his country, now he is back home and settling down with his new wife. They both look ridiculously happy don’t they? Lets hope he still wears the pants in the relationship.


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“I’m Free!!!!” This is one of the more epic picture in this gallery. It seems as though wild thang wanted to show everyone that she was a complete virgin until today (her big day). It looks like she is even on a stage with a huge projector screen behind her. The grooms buddies better call him in the morning to make sure he is still himself. Odds say he will be a changed man

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This wedding photo may take the cake when it comes to pure WTF. We have a seemingly attractive, clean cut, and clothed bride, dancing with a super tatted, naked ginger buff guy, with a face that could be mistaken for Marilyn Manson.’s.  Did I mention he is in a man thong? Turns out he’s a semi-famous Russian body builder, named Sasha Shpak. Known for his freaky eccentric look and preference to wear minimal clothing…. as you can see.

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whale & porpoise wedding couple image

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To my knowledge, choosing the perfect wedding dress is probably the the most important part of the wedding to women. It has to fit perfectly and some brides even go on crazy diets to fit in their dress. They at the least, make sure it fits their bodies properly. This bride is not your normal bride…

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What a perfectly timed photograph, props to whoever took this picture. Now the question is, what the hell is going on here. This guy has a beautiful new wife next to him, clearly trying to get his attention and there some one else face down in his lap, and they appear to be of the female gender. There are so many possibilities of what is really going on. What do you guys think is happening right at this very moment? Besides that the bride has some major cleavage action going on.

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super sexy cleavage bride with groom at cake image

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Wow. This new bride didn’t leave much for the imagination. She’s wearing a rather low cut wedding dress and seems to be falling out of it almost. I’m sure the groom is not complaining, and it’s safe to say that at least half of the wedding guests don’t mind it either. Good for you newlyweds!

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bareback riding of maid by bride image

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Well this must have been a wild night. It also must have been awesome to be the wedding photographer at this venue. The face on the girl underneath (we will call her the horse in this situation, since she is being ridden by the cowboy bride) is priceless. She is most likely one of the bridesmaids and possibly the little sister of the bride. Yee-Haw!!

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We’re…not really sure what’s happening in this one. Is that seriously a dollar store? Are those people behind her wedding guests or customers? So many questions… Lets just hope she didn’t buy the dress there.

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What in the world is granny doing with her hand all up in there? It’s like she is either throwing up a gang sign or just trying to get her hand in the picture. Whatever she was doing, I think she succeeded. There has to be at least a 30 year age difference between Granny and Pink Shirt Guy.


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This is what appears to be a gorgeous wedding photo of a great couple until you see what looks like creepy parents in the background. Whatever this photographer was trying to do, they didn’t pull it off. The fact that the parents refuse to smile makes it look like this groom probably better watch out.

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bride on butt with police image

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Well this wedding did not happen as planned according to this photo. As you can see these (either newlyweds or engaged couple that were supposed to be newlyweds) are surrounded by Police. The groom is being arrested with handcuffs, face down, and the bride looks to heading in that same direction. How would it feel to get arrested on your wedding day? It goes from the best day of your life to the worst.

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boy curiosity bride pic image

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This little boy’s curiosity has started pretty darn young.  It looks like he would have gotten away with it, if it weren’t for this perfectly timed photo by some talented photographer. The bride has no idea what so ever. Think he got a good look?

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groomsmen matching underwear image

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This wedding party knows how to have a good time. This hilarious photo has caught them with their pants down and these girls seem to have a nice view from their spot in the shot. Now everyone is going to want groom underwear for their wedding! Hmm, do the girls have on matching underwear?

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bridal boquet toss image

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Now this is one bouquet toss we wouldn’t mind watching over and over again. In fact, all the wedding attendees were probably like, “just wait a little longer, they are busy”. The girls lined up to catch it seem a bit preoccupied with themselves. Also why are there only three girls lined up the catch it? I guess it improves their odds. Check out the old guy taking a photos or a video of the action. He knows what he’s doing.

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fat black wedding couple being funny image

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This looks like it could have been a low budget wedding, which everyone can appreciate! Why spend a ton of money on one day when you can spend it on your future life, and on a sick honeymoon. But something tells me their honeymoon might have been in a motel 6 in the next state over. However what really matters is their happiness, and they do look happy…or liquored up.

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wedding dance mishap image

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The real moment all the wedding guests had been waiting for. Some hammered member of the wedding party face plants on the tile floor!!! Once again, check out the photo timing of this hard slam to the floor, it’s almost like he anticipated it. Rob Dyrdek would call this a half-scorpion.

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deflowered bride by groom image

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Why wait for the honeymoon when you can just take her on the ground while getting your wedding pictures done? This guy just couldn’t wait and it looks like his pants are coming unfastened next! Hopefully they waited for the cameraman to leave before taking it all off and getting at it.

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old & new wedding couple down the isle image

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Old buck & sweet young thing wedding couple walking down the isle

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Hope you have enjoyed the journey


Henry Sapiecha




The Ultimate Wedding Dress Collection of 2015

Backless Sweep Gown

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The Backless Sweep gown is a ball gown style wedding dress. It hearkens back to an era of skirts in a swirl of satin. It is adorned with tiny cap sleeves and is the picture of sheer elegance.

Mermaid Tulle

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This mermaid style wedding gown is figure hugging of a bride’s womanly curves. It is characterized by its sweetheart neckline and its chapel length train. Applique overlay adorns the hemline, and any bride would look amazing in this gown!



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If you are a fan of bows, we have found the gown for you! This particular gown features a bow in both the front and the back. It is a strapless, fit to flare style gown. This dress is cute, fun, and classy at the same time. Could a bride ask for more?

Old Hollywood Style

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If you are a fan of Old Hollywood fashion, you will love this gown. It speaks to the history of cinematic royalty and their fashion sense of decades gone by. The V-neck and the fitted waist give this wedding gown its unique shaping.

Beach Gown

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If you have a romantic wedding on the beach planned for you and your fiancé, this casual wedding dress cannot be beat! The plunging back gives way to a slight cascading train. The fitted front hints of a swimsuit styling

Illusion Gown


This Ines Di Santo wedding gown is a ‘fit to flare’ style gown. The bodice and hemlines are topped with lacy applique to give this gown a traditional touch. It is made with a petal pink underlay layer to give the illusion of a soft pink hue.

Ruffles Are Back In Style!

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If you are a girly girl bride who can’t get enough of a good thing known as the ruffle, this dress characterized by ruffles is made just for you. The strapless body hugging bodice will draw attention to your milky white shoulders and your curves. This Val Stefani creation is hot for 2015!


Understated Elegance

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If you are a bride looking to make an elegant entrance to your wedding, this gown is for you. A candlelit ceremony would be the perfect backdrop for this gown. It is simple in design, but oh so chic!

Traditional or Fluffy, You Decide!

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If you are a fan of the elegant ball gown, you will be a stylish bride in a sweeping skirt. But, to be on trend, you do not have to have a sleek gown; a gown with fluff and ruffles is also in style. No matter which skirt you choose, a romantic lacy top is a must!

Cinderella Style

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With the movie Cinderella in theaters, the skirt with lots of poof and fitted bodice is trending for 2015. Whether the illusion waist is featured in lace or if it is made in satin, a bride will look like she is stepping into her fairytale with a gown such as this. If you don’t mind showing off your cleavage on your wedding day, this gown is definitely for you

Hoped you enjoyed the wedding dress gowns presentation.



Henry Sapiecha

Love without marriage: Meet the couples shunning ‘I do’

A growing number of couples in committed long-term relationships are very consciously choosing not to get married.

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Emily Cooper and her partner of eight years Ben Morrell announced to their families they would not get married, to manage expectations. 

When Emily Cooper and her boyfriend of eight years Ben Morrell flew home one Christmas to Sydney’s northern beaches they had an announcement to make. “We’ve decided not to get married,” Emily told her family and close friends.

“Although it seemed a little strange, we purposefully told them in order to manage their expectations,” the 29-year-old virtual assistant recalls. “I’ve always said getting married was not for me.”

Ben had already broken the news to his English family during a weekend in Amsterdam. “I told them that if we say ‘we have some news’ in the future it is more likely to be a baby than a wedding!”

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Jo Bassett and Andrew Gillette with their two children, Isabella and Nathaniel, say marriage would not change their commitment. Photo: Supplied

Three months ago Emily and Ben welcomed a son, Sullivan – and no one has said anything to them about having a baby and not being married. “It hasn’t appeared to be an issue for anyone we know,” Emily says.

Like Emily and Ben, a growing number of couples in committed long-term relationships who have children (or intend to) and share a home and finances, are very consciously choosing not to say I do.
Women driving change

Sixteen per cent of Australian couples now live in a de facto relationship, according to the latest census, up from 10 per cent fifteen years ago. The proportion of cohabiting couples who are unmarried and have children has risen from 4 per cent to 11 per cent.

Yet while Beyonce extols men to “put a ring on it” it’s actually women who are driving this massive social change.

They’re not hardline feminazis raging against a patriarchal institution but bright, practical, independent women who can’t see what difference a wedding would make to the security and stability of their partnership.


Educated, making their own money and enjoying sexual freedom, these women are proud their social status is no longer tied to their marital status.

“The liberation of women includes the idea that women are free to make choices about everything – including fertility and cohabitation – that their own mothers did not feel free to make,” social researcher Hugh Mackay notes.

“That stereotype [of women desperate to marry] is completely wrong. Overwhelmingly women are taking the power of making that decision themselves.”

It might be because they’d prefer to spend their money on a house than “the big day”, they’ve been burnt in the past by divorce, or because they don’t have any religious beliefs which necessitate a blessing of their union. Many women say they just don’t need a marriage certificate to validate their relationship.

“I’ve always been a bit nonplussed about marriage,” Emily Cooper says. “I know we’re going to be together forever, we love each other, we’re one 100 per cent committed. We own property together, all our finances are shared. Even if we were married it would be a very similar situation in our day-to-day lives.”
Lesson learnt is ‘keep your options open’

Mackay says couples increasingly don’t want their relationship entangled in the church or state, and he believes there is an element of commitment-phobia in the rise of de facto relationships.

“People who have grown up in the last 30 years have experienced a very revolutionary period,” he says. “They’re the offspring of the most divorced generation, they’ve lived through a lot of economic uncertainty, the gender revolution is continuing. The lesson they’ve learnt is ‘keep your options open’.”

But Lyn Fletcher from Relationships Australia argues few de facto couples are together “for the fun of it” or to see if it works out. “There is a level of engagement, commitment and permanency in their relationships that they expect to continue. It’s not about marriage being wrong, it’s about what else does marriage give you that de facto doesn’t?”

Ben Morrell admits it was tough for him to decide not to get married. “Before I met Emily I definitely assumed I would get married. I come from a Christian family and I guess I presumed it would be the status quo.”

The couple went back and forth on the marriage question for a year. It helped that they had just moved to the “neutral territory” of Singapore for work.

“We didn’t have the influence of family and friends and society,” Emily says. “It gave us time to reflect on it, what do we really want – rather than what is everyone else doing. We had to be really open and honest with each other.”

Eventually Ben realised that if marriage was supposed to be “the ultimate commitment and compromise” he couldn’t pressure Emily into it.

“Forcing Emily to do something one way without consideration for her views seems illogical,” he explains. “To me it’s so much more important that I am with the right person [than being married].”

Now Ben can see the benefits of their choice. “It’s cheaper! Seriously, it seems some people are on pause, saving hard for two years for one day and waiting to ‘start’ their life together. It’s also [good] to think that we haven’t just gone with arguably the easier route and got married for the sake of it. I’m proud of that.”
‘Born out of wedlock’ now an anachronism

Although 53 per cent of Australian adults are in a registered marriage, according to the Bureau of Statistics, the crude marriage rate has fallen from 9.3 marriages per 1000 people in 1970 to 5.2 marriages per 1000 people in 2014.

Half a century ago children born outside of marriage were classified as “illegitimate”, and shotgun weddings or forced adoptions were common to avoid the shame of being an unmarried mother. A woman relied upon a man for financial security and couples who shacked up without marrying were “living in sin”.

In 1960 only 5 per cent of babies were born outside marriage, rising to 12 per cent in 1980. The term “born out of wedlock” has become an anachronism in the 21st century, with a third of children born outside marriage in 2011.

While this figure includes babies born to single mothers, Australian Institute of Family Studies researcher Lixia Qu says most of the growth is due to the increasing number of couples opting to have children within de facto relationships.

Living in Asia has made Emily Cooper and Ben Morrell realise how accepted de facto relationships are in Australia. Here government forms include a de facto box you can tick, couples who have been living together for more than two years have rights to each other’s property, and the Family Court treats de facto parents exactly the same as married parents.

“As a woman there is a whole new feminist movement which makes it fine [not to be married],” Emily observes. “It used to be that you’d have no social standing if you weren’t married. I’m happy people don’t judge you like that these days. We’re lucky we live in a Western society where we can do what we want to do and not be dictated to by whoever.”

With one in three marriages breaking now down , the experience of divorce has sullied some couples’ views of marriage. Whether their parents split up when they were little, or their own marriage didn’t last, they’re well aware a marriage certificate doesn’t future-proof a relationship.
A testament to trust and commitment

When her marriage ended after four years, Vicki Stirling decided she wouldn’t walk down the aisle again. “I felt marriage didn’t mean anything anymore,” she says. “Relationships break down whether you’re married or not.”

The 41-year-old fashion and lifestyle business consultant made this “perfectly clear” to Sebastien Verrier when their relationship blossomed after meeting at a work conference in Malta. While Vicki believes the Catholic-raised Frenchman had grown up expecting he would marry, Sebastien says marriage was not that important to him because his parents divorced when he was ten.

The couple have been together for nine years and now live in Melbourne’s Brunswick with their five-year-old son Isaac and 13-year-old Millie from Vicki’s previous marriage.

Sebastien jokes the couple would be “no good” at being married. “There is a pressure that sometimes comes with being married,” Vicki says, who remembers how her mother told her it was her “duty” to stay with her ex-husband even though she was no longer happy. “We don’t need that. We’ve got a good partnership.”

Many de facto couples believe they work harder at their relationship precisely because they’re not married, and argue their de facto status is a testament to their level of trust and commitment.


“We have to make more of an effort to keep loving each other [because] there is not a piece of paper linking us together,” Sebastien says. Vicki agrees: “When we do go through hard times – and we do – there is nothing else apart from our relationship keeping us together. It’s not because we’re married.”

A de facto relationship is up to five times more likely than a marriage to end within five years, according to the AIFS. “Mentally and emotionally de facto feels different to marriage, which is why it can feel somewhat easier to walk away,” Hugh Mackay says.
Kids ‘like a line in the sand’

Forty per cent of de facto couples expect to get married in the future, and the arrival of children often pushes them to take that step. Yet some couples say having children solidified their commitment to their de facto status.

“When we had kids it was like a line in the sand was drawn,” 44-year-old life coach Jo Bassett recalls.

“It was like ‘I’m really committed to this man and this family’. I realised it’s very important mum and dad stay together. I’m not mucking around now, it’s really serious now what we’re doing.”

Jo Bassett and Andrew Gillette met on the NSW central coast in their late teens, and have been a couple for 20 years. Jo believes not being married engenders a sense of freedom of choice.

“There is an element that we are choosing to stay together, maybe there is a freshness,” she says. “At first I’m choosing to be with you because I love and adore you. When that starts to fade and look a bit tarnished, I’m choosing to be with you because of this family we are creating together.”

Andrew will often say “We share our house, we share the kids, we share our debt. What else is there?”

Their ten year-old daughter Isabella and nine year-old son Nathaniel sometimes ask their parents when they’re going to get married. “I say ‘mum and dad love you, really nothing would change’,” Jo explains. “This is their reality, they’ve got a pretty good one. Mum and dad are together, we don’t fight very often, there is a lot of love.”


Relationships Australia’s Lyn Fletcher says most children wouldn’t be aware of whether their parents were married or de facto. “The most important thing to them is that mum and dad are a constant in their life, they have a sound relationship and they can depend on them. It’s not their legal status.”

Despite the growing prevalence of de facto relationships, couples say they’re still treated as a curiosity by some people. “People say ‘you guys should get married, you’d made a cute couple’. It’s like ‘are we not a cute couple now?’,” Vicki Stirling says.

“Sometimes I want to call them on it – ‘why did you feel you had to get married? Don’t you trust your relationship?’ We don’t need a piece of paper to say we’ll be together forever.”


Henry Sapiecha